To share or not to share?

When you find that you're pregnant, what will you do?

Will you keep that good news just for you and husband? Or will you share it with everyone you know, included family and friends?

For me, I chose the last.

There was a discussion I read on the internet whether to tell other people or keep it secret until the pregnancy enter the 2nd trimester (4-6 months). There are pro and cons about the two options.

The first said that it's better to keep it private because the 1st trimester is the vital period where miscarriage can happen anytime. Of course we would not expect it happens but we never know. So, be patient and wait till you have passed the important- first-three-months which means that the probability of miscarriage will drop to 0%.

The second opinion is to share it because it is a great joy and happiness for not only both of you but also for family and friends. They can support you in your not-so-good-first-trimester if you experience nausea, vomitting and other morning sickness. They can give you advice if this is your first time pregnancy. And the most important thing according to me is that you will not feel alone if you experience miscarriage. Hubby , family and friends can be your strength to get through the sadness and tears.

I thanks God that I can pass the 1st trimester without vomitting at all. Yes, I felt exhausted and easily tired or sleepy. Entering the 2nd trimester, I feel better and somehow get back to my normal life.

One of my bestfriend had miscarriage two weeks ago. I guess she chose the first option above, but still told some friends offline. Her pregnancy was one month younger than mine. I wish I can be beside you to comfort and hug you. I only can pray that Jesus hugs you there, always. Be strong, sis!
Miss you!

When Hubby Falls in Love with You AGAIN!

When your hubby said he falls in love with you as if the first time you go for dating?

My hubby said that when he heard that I was pregnant. He was so etremely happy, couldn't say anything except that he fell in love with me again.

Marriage is about love and commitment.

Long before we got married, San shared to me that love is like a garden full of flowers. Firstly, the two gardeners would fill the garden with many beautiful and colorful flowers, water them everyday so that the fragrance could fill the two-loving-hearts.

As time goes by, the two gardeners are busy with other businesses, so they don't concentrate on that garden anymore. The number of flowers decreases, but the garden is still there. Ocassionaly, on special events, the two gardeners will be back working on the garden, but they will soon do other business as well.

Heard about he will be a father is a Great News for San, so that he hurries back to the garden to plant and water flowers. He saw that the roses, jasmine, orchids, etc on our garden bloom beautifully and he felt IN LOVE again!

Anyway, it's not just about the two gardeners. We miss out the Chief Gardener! He is the one who takes care of our garden since 2005 and protect our commitment in front of Him 1,5 years ago.

Snow Experience

I am living in Busan, South Korea now. Busan is in southern part of this country. Yesterday when I checked the weather forecasting on the internet shows that today will be snow in Busan. But as I know before, the snow will not come to our house, because our location is not too high enough to get the snow. When I woke up this morning, I was trying to open our room’s window to see if there is snow or not. Holaaaa…. I can see the thin ice in our neighbor’s roof. I can see also the snow was coming down. Wow, I amazed and surprised. Then I woke up my wife to see the snow together. (We never saw the falling snow together…^..^)

After that I have prepared quickly to go to school. Before go to school, I want to see upstairs how’s the view of Busan from the roof of our house. First, I found our friend’s dog (named Lucky) seemed frozen up there. I think it is not as lucky as its name. I took some pictures up there.

When I am on the way to subway station, I saw much ice on the road and still snowing at that time. I saw so many people going to subway station. I was thinking that it’s unusual at those times still many people everywhere, because it’s almost working time. Usually, when I went to school, there are few people using subway together with me. My wonder was true. It’s very hard to enter the subway, because it’s already full inside the subway. We had to wait for next subway, because it’s too crowded. The same situation came for the next subway. I jumped to subway with many people around. We pushed and being pushed each other to get the space. Fiuhhh, my memory was flashing back to my home country, Indonesia. There we can find a lot of incidents like this when a lot of people snatch up space for themselves. In Indonesia, I hope it happens because little transportation we have rather than our furious characters.

Inside the subway, I can only stand up in the middle crowded situation. While I was standing in front of the old man, suddenly he grasped my bag. At that time I knew that he will not do something bad to me, because my Korean friends told me already that it’s usual here the people who were sitting to carry standing people’s load. Once again, my mind was comparing this incident to my home country. In Indonesia, it will not happen like that. If someone grasped our belonging without permission, he or she might be a theft. Here, I saw the kindness of people helps another while in difficult situation.

Since my school is in another island-Yeongdo Island, I have to stop in one station called Nampo-dong then change by bus. When I leaved the station, I saw the road was full of ice everywhere. I saw it still snowing there. I don’t think that I can go to school because my school is in another island and the bus has to climb the mountainous road. Right again, there’s no busses will operate to go up there. Then I saw many people tried to stop any cars or taxis to ask their destination to Yeongdo Island. I saw many cars willing to stop to hear from some people there if they have match destination or not. What a wonderful heart of sharing and attention to others.

Meanwhile I was waiting there; there were some text messages and calls from my friend and Professor. We communicated about what we should do next? Is there any class or not? Because my Professor is also live far away from campus. It means that he can’t reach the campus as well. Then I received text message from my Professor to inform me that school decided already not to operate class hours for this day due to snow. Then I walked back to subway station went home.

In the subway station, I experienced the same situation like this morning time. So many people there were waiting for the train. I don’t know why, but this is a story of my second experience to see falling snow and first time in the crowded situation everywhere.

-San-

We saw the baby! - Week 11

Doctor said that I had to come after Lunar New Year to check how the baby is. This time San came with me and we insisted that he must come in together with me to see the USG monitor.

Firstly doctor asked me how about the last three weeks, did I take a lot of rest and eat well...I said yes. I slept many many hours since I felt tired easily. Then she asked did I experience vomit or morning sickness....I said no. She seemed surprise to hear my answer. (On the first visit, she had asked me the same question and my answer was NO). To reassure herself, she asked the same question one more time.

She said that God helps me because I didn't experience any vomit or morning sickness which is normal for early pregnancy. God makes my physical condition so good and healthy. He knows that I live far away from hometown and the weather in Korea is totally different from Indonesia. This year winter is the worst winter in Korea, it is extremely cold compare to previous years. Thanks God!

Doctor started to put the USG scan to my tummy and we saw the cute small baby. Baby was idle at first but when San wanted to take some pictures, baby started to wave its hands and legs. All of us were so happy to see the movement, especially San, because it was the first time for him to see the baby. He successfully recorded the baby's movement!

What a great husband!

He was so nice and helpful during this tiring week.
I got terrible headache and caught a bad flu these few days.
San was always there for me, offered helps and even replaced me to teach English at night class (something that he would not do in the past even though I begged him hihi^^).

He helped to clean the room (actually he did it himself without my help ^^) and also cooked for me. Surprised!

Thanks bun2!