Showing posts with label Pregnancy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pregnancy. Show all posts

Thursday, December 29, 2011

JoSH's birth story in Busan (4-end)

Thanking God for JoSH


Cerita ini lanjutan dari:
JoSH' birth story in Busan (1), (2) dan (3).
Yang belum pernah baca sebelumnya, bisa baca dulu supaya nyambung ceritanya.



Kami bersyukur sekali di saat-saat genting, Tuhan mengirimkan tiga orang sahabat kami untuk menemani. Mereka menjadi saksi peristiwa yang sangat berharga untuk keluarga kami, dan mereka menjadi bagian dari cerita ini. 


Dodo, Cien dan Hari rencananya hendak persekutuan doa malam di gereja kami malam itu. Ketika menerima telepon kami, arah tujuan berubah menuju rumah sakit. Dan ini berkat yang luar biasa buat kami. Telepon dari Mama Papa pun diterima oleh Hari, saking kondisi yang tidak memungkinkan untuk terus memberikan update ke orang rumah. 


Perawat memasang masker ke mulut dan hidungku. Susah bernafas jadinya. Aku melepas masker itu, terbayang-bayang Emak terbaring di rumah sakit dengan masker yang membuatnya tidak bisa berkomunikasi dengan keluarga. Kepala perawat datang dan memaksaku memakainya. "Dita, this is for your baby!" 


Kejadian berikutnya aku mulai kurang tahu detil kejadiannya. Sepertinya perawat memutuskan bahwa kasusku urgent dan perlu segera dioperasi. Dodo memberitahu San untuk menandatangani surat persetujuan untuk operasi. Bayangkan, semuanya tertulis dalam bahasa Korea, dan komunikasi dalam bahasa Korea pula. Untung ada Dodo yang membantu menerjemahkan. 


San memberitahukan kepadaku bahwa perawat menyarankan operasi, dan sedang menghubungi Dokter-ku untuk datang ke rumah sakit. Kami masih terus berfikir dan mempertimbangkan. Benarkah perlu operasi?


Belum sampai berfikir panjang, bahkan San belum menandatangani surat, perawat lain datang dan dengan sigap mempersiapkan aku untuk ke ruang operasi. Dokter akan datang sebentar lagi, sebelum itu aku harus sudah siap di ruangan. 


Kepala perawat memberitahu San untuk segera menanda-tangani surat persetujuan. Kontraksi yang aku alami tidak ada henti dari awal, sudah hampir 5 jam berlangsung dan detak jantung bayi semakin melemah. Urgent, harus masuk ruang operasi! Segera!


San mengikuti aku yang didorong menuju ruang operasi. Seperti keinginan kami dari mula, San harus masuk untuk menemani. Tiba di lorong menuju ruang operasi, perawat menghentikan dia, dan mengatakan bahwa San tidak boleh ikut masuk. 


Deg! 


Berarti harus sendirian nih, tanpa San. San berteriak kepadaku yang dibawa perawat memasuki lorong itu, "Tetap kuat, Non. Ada Tuhan Yesus."


Di luar ruang operasi, San & teman-teman menunggu. Akhirnya San bisa membuka bekal makan malam yang belum sempat dimakannya. Perutnya lapar sekali, tapi tidak bisa makan karena terus menunggui aku. Baru makan beberapa suap, pintu ruang operasi terbuka. Box kecil dibawa keluar berisi JoSH! Perawat-perawat itu dengan cepat membawa dia ke ruang bayi. San yang takut bayinya tertukar, mengikuti sampai ke ruangan bayi. 


JoSH lahir dengan selamat. Puji Tuhan! 


Selama hamil, aku tidak pernah mengalami masalah. Sampai pemeriksaan terakhir pun Dokter menyatakan bahwa semuanya normal, melahirkan pun bisa dengan normal. Kami pun tidak ingin berlama-lama di rumah sakit setelah melahirkan. Siapa yang mengira bahwa menjelang kelahirannya, justru ada kejadian-kejadian yang di luar perkiraan. 


Segala sesuatu bisa terjadi di dalam hidup kita. Kita hanya bisa mempersiapkan dengan sebaik mungkin, tapi kehendak Tuhan yang terjadi. Kami percaya bahwa Tuhan tidak pernah meninggalkan dan selalu menjaga kami. Tuhan menolong kami bahkan ketika kami jauh dari sanak-saudara, di tempat yang baru yang bahasanya saja kami belum fasih berbicara. Terpujilah nama Tuhan. 


Mazmur 71:6
Kepada-Mulah aku bertopang mulai dari kandungan, Engkau telah mengeluarkan aku dari perut ibuku, Engkau yang selalu kupuji-puji.

Posting Welcome Joshua! bisa dibaca di:
http://ditautomo.blogspot.com/2010/09/welcome-joshua.html

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

JoSH's birth story in Busan (3)

Normal or C-Section?

Cerita ini lanjutan dari:
JoSH' birth story in Busan (1) dan JoSH' birth story in Busan (2).
Yang belum pernah baca sebelumnya, bisa baca dulu supaya nyambung ceritanya.

Taksi yang mau kami tumpangi ke rumah sakit pergi, lengkap dengan tas dan semua dokumen yang San taruh di jok belakang mobil.

San pergi berlari mencari taksi itu. Aku tahu dia panik sekali melihat aku mau melahirkan, ditambah lagi taksi itu pergi dengan membawa tas kami.

Aku berjalan pelan-pelan menuju pertigaan jalan. Otakku berpikir keras bagaimana caranya seandainya tas itu tidak kami temukan. Kalau kasus begini terjadi di waktu yang lain, bukan di saat urgent begini, mungkin akan lain jadinya. Otak terasa macet, susah berfikir. Kalau baju dan perlengkapan2 kami mungkin bisa beli lagi dengan segera di toko-toko, tapi semua macam kartu dan dokumen juga ada di dalam tas. Dokumen-dokumen itu kalau mau buat lagi, tidak bisa sehari jadi dan harus berurutan (paspor dulu - ngurusnya di Seoul, lalu buat ID Card, lalu surat pernikahan, kartu ATM, dll...).

Aku sampai di pertigaan jalan, dan melihat taksi itu ada sekitar 30 meter dari tempatku berdiri. San sepertinya sedang mengeluarkan tas kami dari jok belakang. Rasanya lega sekali, Tuhan menjawab doa. Dia tahu bahwa kami perlu segera ke rumah sakit dan perlu tas itu. Pengemudi taksi itu bisa saja lari meninggalkan kami pergi jauh. Dia bisa saja membawa tas kami pergi. Kami percaya Tuhan menjaga kami.

San berlari lagi menuju ke arahku. Dia bilang bahwa taksi itu tidak mau mengantar karena tahu bahwa calon penumpangnya mau melahirkan. Rupanya ketika memangil taksi, San mengatakan kepada sopir itu dengan nada panik bahwa istrinya mau melahirkan. Ternyata si sopir itu tidak bersedia, entah karena alasan apa.

Kami berdua berjalan pelan lewat jalan yang naik turun (seperti lagu ya: Ku tak cemas kan jalan yang naik turun, lewat lembah dan gunung yang terjal, sbab ku tahu Tuhan berjalan sampingku, membimbingku ke negeri yang kekal), menuju jalan raya. Sambil berjalan, aku memberi tahu San supaya tidak panik waktu bicara ke sopir taksi, dan tidak usah memberitahu bahwa aku akan melahirkan, cukup bilang bahwa kami ingin ke rumah sakit, tolong segera.

Akhirnya kami mendapat taksi. Sepanjang perjalanan, kututup rapat mulutku menahan sakit, takut membuat sopir taksi jadi gugup dan menolak mengantar kami, seperti taksi yang pertama tadi. Akhirnya, San jadi sasaran, tangan dan pahanya kupegang erat-erat. Kontraksi itu tidak ada jedanya, terus-menerus tidak berhenti. Aku terus bertanya, sampai dimana ini, sudah dekat apa belum...

Kami melihat gedung rumah sakit itu dari dalam taksi. Puji Tuhan, akhirnya sampai juga. San berniat memberikan tip kepada sopir taksi, tidak banyak, cuma 2000won, sebagai ucapan terima kasih karena sudah menolong kami sampai ke rumah sakit. Ternyata, reaksi sopirnya di luar dugaan kami, bukannya berterima kasih, tapi dia balik bertanya dengan heran "Apakah anda orang kaya?". Di Korea tidak ada budaya memberikan tips kepada sopir taksi. Walaupun kembaliannya receh, beberapa koin saja, tetap dikembalikan dengan tepat, tanpa pembulatan-pembulatan karena alasan tidak ada kembalian.

San menuntunku ke gedung ruang gawat darurat. Perawat di dalam segera keluar membawa kursi roda.
Hari itu hari Sabtu. Dokterku pernah berkata bahwa Dokter hanya ada di hari biasa (Senin-Jumat), hari Sabtu dan Minggu hanya ada dokter jaga. Tidak ada pilihan lagi, yang penting sudah sampai di rumah sakit.

Perawat bertanya usia kehamilan dan kontraksi yang kualami. Persis 40 minggu dan kontraksi tidak ada jeda. Seperti heran, dia bertanya lagi, setiap berapa menit kontraksinya? Tidak ada jeda, jawabku. Terus-menerus.

Dua perawat yang lain datang dan bertanya lagi. Jawabanku tetap sama. Setelah dicek, sudah bukaan 2. Sakitnya yang tidak tertahankan membuat aku menanyakan apakah mungkin jika dioperasi Caesar.

Grace dari Kosin Missionary Center datang melihat kondisiku. Dia bilang, ini biasa, semua orang yang mau melahirkan juga pasti merasa sakit, meskipun ada yang cepat proses melahirkannya, ada juga yang lama. Mungkin besok pagi baru lahir.

Sementara menunggu sambil menahan sakit, grafik di mesin yang terhubung dengan tubuhku menunjukkan grafik gunung-gunung naik turun tiada henti-hentinya.

(bersambung)

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

JoSH's birth story in Busan (1)

Waiting for delivery

Sudah lama sekali pingin cerita tentang kelahirannya baby Joshua Songmin, tapi karena banyak urusan lain, posting2 yang lain, sampai Joshua umur 1 tahun lebih belum juga ditulis nih :( Sebelum lupa cerita kelahiran Joshua harus cepat2 ditulis deh...

Sempat bingung mau tulis pakai bahasa Indonesia, atau bahasa Inggris. Maunya tulis pakai bahasa Inggris supaya teman2 yang lain bisa ikut baca, tapi bahasa Indonesia lebih bisa mewakili isi hati deh...^^

Kalau sempat ngikuti blog ini, ada beberapa posting singkat seputar lahirnya Joshua, bisa dibaca di sini, dan di sini.

Sejak masuk minggu ke-37, kami sudah 'ngarep-ngarep' (baca: berharap) si baby bisa lahir di bulan Agustus apa engga ya? San dan aku lahirnya bulan Agustus, tanggal pernikahan juga di bulan Agustus. Wah kalau si baby lahir bulan yang sama, bisa seru nih bulan Agustus...semua2 dirayakan bersamaan.

Minggu ke-38 semakin berharap baby bisa lahir bareng ultahku apa engga ya? Seru juga kali ya kalau ultahnya bisa barengan mama & anak. Ternyata terlewatkan juga.

Minggu ke-39 awal, kami jalan-jalan belanja di E-Mart. Setelah belanja, sambil menunggu San mengambil tas di locker, aku duduk di bangku. Eh ternyata di depan tempat aku duduk itu ada small photo studio dan...ada foto gratis untuk pregnant women!

Woohoo...ga pernah foto di studio selama hamil, di Indonesia kayaknya waktu itu lagi seru2nya pregnancy photo session, di Korea harga foto di studio mahalnya ajubile...

Tanya2 deh kita, dan ternyata iya, beneran gratis untuk 1x foto aja. Foto2 yang lainnya kalau mau diambil juga baru bayar...

So, kita buat appointment di akhir minggu itu buat foto, sesudah aku placement test untuk masuk kelas bahasa Korea minggu berikutnya, which is waktu masuk 40 weeks!

40 wks hamil mulai kuliah? Iya... >.<'

Waktu placement test bhs Korea aja, banyak yang ngelihatin deh...hahaha...mau ngapain ini ibu hamil gede banget badannya, jalannya juga susah gini, duduk 2 jam ikut ujian bahasa Korea. Habis gitu harus nunggu giliran interview bahasa Korea juga...

Karena sepertinya bakal lama nunggu dan punya janji untuk foto, aku tanya ke asisten guru, jam berapa aku interview-nya. Oh oh! Karena aku anak beasiswa, giliran interview setelah anak2 yang lain, dan diantara anak beasiswa, aku yang paling terakhir! Sebelum pergi foto harus ketemu International Student Staff juga untuk briefing...Wah...gimana dong...

Akhirnya aku ketemu International Student Staff dulu, dan dia bilang 'maybe it's ok for you not to take the interview, so you can go'. Aha...ya uda deh, cabut!

Akhirnya bisa dapat foto ini di hari2 terakhir mengandung.

39 wks pregnancy

...to be continued...

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Last Year in Silla University

Two days before delivered baby Joshua, in front of Global Town (Students Dormitory).
If you remember my posting "Scholarship..." posted last year, as a result of the scholarship, I had to attend Korean Language Course starting the beginning of September 2010.

The placement test was on September 3.
First class was on September 6.
And my due date was on September 11, 2010!

Some people said that due date for the first pregnancy can be later than the due date. But, there are some people who delivered their babies earlier than due date. So, nobody knows when the due date is.

My condition was good so I decided to attend the classes on my last week of pregnancy with one requirement. San should go to school with me ^^. He could sit somewhere else in the same building while waiting for me finishing the classes. We even had our own university orientation after lunch.

It was uncomfortable for me to sit for 4 hours in the class. The lesson was too difficult for me, too, and it required lots of concentration and effort. But Teachers calmed me down and asked me to make myself comfortable preparing for delivery.

Joshua was born exactly on the due date. Doctor's prediction was exactly right!
The next day after I said 'good bye for a while' to my teachers.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Mom, before and after delivery...

Pic was taken after I recorded my story for Busan e-FM. 2010, August 9.

On the last month of pregnancy I got total 20kgs >.< ,
mostly because of my body was swollen a lot.
Right after delivery, I lost 11kgs on the 5th day.
And lost total 18kgs a month after.
Walking, sleeping, and standing were difficult with my 'big size' body.
You know that in Busan, which 'san' means 'mountain' 
you will hardly see flat roads here.
San needed to push me from the back when the road was steep
or when I needed to climb stairs.

Pic was taken by Sam, our friend from Hongkong on the day
we visited Jagalchi Market in June, 2011.

I was almost back to my normal weight.
Joshua was about 8.5kgs at that time.
Many things have changed after I lost that 20kgs, but one things still remains.
San still pushes me from the back when the road is steep or when I need to climb stairs.
Because now I hold Joshua! ^^

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Welcome, Joshua Songmin!


Welcome Joshua Songmin!
Now you can see Papa and Mama.
You can feel our hands hold and hug you.
You can feel the kisses landed on your cheek.
We had been waiting for you.

Your parents,
Papa & Mama

 Joshua Songmin was born at Kosin University Gospel Hospital. We were blessed to be able to deliver him here at the hospital. We were indebted to the kindness of the doctors, nurses and the people there. 


This was us taken the next day after the C-section.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

A strong mother to be...

What I always imagined before getting married is delivering my first baby with my mother besides me. Being the only daughter in the family makes me close to Mama and Papa. To both of them, I can share many things. When I want to talk about study or work, I would talk to Papa; when it is about other things, I would call Mama.

I guess Mama has the same dream, too; that is to be able to stay close to me when I need her help the most, especially giving birth to a baby is a first time experience for me.

When I was at Church with her, a friend's mother came over and said that she invited her mother to accompany her while she gave birth to her three children. She asked why I still wanted to born my baby in Busan. The most comfortable thing is to have your mother with you before, during and after the process. I almost couldn't hold my tears. Indeed, it is not my own will to go back to Busan and struggle by myself.  

That's why Mama cried a lot when she had to leave me in the airport. I tried not to cry badly, but after she disappeared from my sight, I couldn't stand anymore. I cried deeply...

Before we took the decision, San has reminded me that God is always with us. Mama can't be here with me, but God is here with me. What I should ask for more if He is with me. It reminded me to the lyrics of Be Thou My Vision, translated into Indonesian:

Kaulah, ya Tuhan, Surya hidupku
Asal Kau ada yang lain tak perlu
Siang dan malam Engkau kukenang
Di hadiratMu jiwaku tenang

It doesn't mean that I don't need mother, father or husband; but it wants to remind me that God is my strength. Through this experience of life, God will make me stronger, a stronger mother for my baby and a stronger wife for supporting my husband.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Scholarship...

I got a big big big surprise...Honestly, I cried when I read my name on the list of KGSP (Korean Government Scholarship Program) 2010. So, San were busy to calm me down. He said that normally people would shout and smile when they received a scholarship, but why I cried...

Initially, it wasn't my own idea or interest to apply for the scholarship since I am expecting a baby and thinking that taking care a baby will be heavy and busy enough for me. The school will start on September 1, 2010 and my due date is September 11, 2010.

Well, I never thought about that scholarship until one day, my Korean teacher called me and said that a university is willing to recommend me as a scholarship recipient for KGSP 2010. He, with his own initiative, has brought my canceled application for Korean Language Course in another university (because of financial matter) to that university. Then the staff called me requesting me to complete the apllication only within two weeks.

It totally changed my whole plan! I have bought flight ticket to return to Indonesia, arranged domestic flights for my family trip in Korea and dreamed to deliver the baby in Indonesia with my mom & family around me and...will not come back to Korea anymore.

It might have been the toughest days in my life when San and I had to discussed and prayed for the suddened offer. The road in front of us is uncertain...I may get it or I may not get it. If I choose to stay in Korea, but I couldn't get the scholarship; it would be hard for us financially.

One reason that drove us to make this decision was that it is wiser to stay together as a family. If I go to Indonesia, San would not be able to see, touch and talk with the baby. San's professor reminded us that even though a baby can't exactly remember the face or voice of the parents, but baby can feel the existence of her parents.

My mom, I know that she got dissapointed and worried so much when I told her that I will deliver the baby in Busan, without her besides me. Still she could say like this "If the father (San) said that he doesn't want to be far away from his baby, I believe he will be responsible for you and the baby".

It reminded me straight away to our Father in heaven. If this is His way, and He wants me to pass through it, He will guide, help and strengthen me. He will be responsible for my baby and my family.

Please pray for me and my family.

"Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me"
Psalm 54:4

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Beautiful May!

What can I say...

The best place in my life is home...
Having traveled for almost 36 hours from Busan - Incheon - Denpasar - Surabaya - Bojonegoro definitely made me tired. But, when my father and mother hugged me, I could feel no pain anymore...

They treated me like I am a princess. I could eat whatever I wanted to eat. Even though I didn't request for a certain food, but my mom provided those food for me. Everyday, I tried different kind of food, and drinks, and snacks...yey!

Mom and I hunted for several baby needs. She sewed and crochetted some clothes for my baby, too! Awesome! I wish I could crochet just like my mom.

Will show you what my mom successfully crochetted for my baby when I got my camera back.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Study and Generation Gap

I always agree that we have to study all the time through out our life. 


Some people think that after graduated from High School or University they can stop study. 


Study is not only the matter of academic study where you are required to sit in the class, listen to teachers and do exam. Study can be anywhere and anytime. It doesn't need you to go to school or do your homework to get good point or score.


What I mean with study here is to update yourself with any new information, technology, method, design or any news around the world. Listening to radio, watching television, reading newspaper both online or hard-copy, browsing internet, attending seminar or training can be several ways to equip yourself to aware with today's world.


San and I were discussing about this subject when we were having dinner yesterday. He noticed that many parents stopped 'studying' and just focus on their job which cause them not aware with their children's world and their way of thinking. It is so called 'generation gap'. 


Parents don't want to know about new technology such as internet, blackberry, online-game, facebook, blog, etc, which are popular these days. Parents are far behind in their knowledge of new scientist invention or medical research. 


San told me about his professor who always read the latest published books and share to his students. He can just share any famous books he has read that were written by famous author in the past 5, 10 or 20 years. The content of those good books might be relevant on those era, but not exactly for today's era. So, it will be great if he can share a new book which is relevant for today's situation. That's why he doesn't stop reading.


We were reminded to keep studying since we are going to be parents. We have to equip ourself and aware of any changes in the world. Our child's world will be different from ours, that's why we have to reduce the generation gap to be able to understand our child better. 


Let's study!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Housewife?

An old friends suddenly wanted to chat on Facebook, and asked some questions...

Q: Where are you now?
A: I'am in Busan.
Q: O...Busan. South Korea?
A: Yes
Q: For what? Study or working?
A: Accompany husband. He is studying here.
Q: So what are you doing?
A: I'm a housewife.
Q: What? So pity...You're so smart and now you're just an housewife? Eman-emane rek...(In Indonesian)

So what's wrong with being a housewife? If I am smart, can't I be a housewife?

I knew many mommies and wives out there who are smarter than me yet still choose to be a mother and wife. Taking care of their husband and children, making their house clean and homy, cook healthy and delicious food for family, etc. It's not an easy job to do though.

When I shared to hubby about the conversation on that day, he said to me that people judge the value of a man as a commodity. If a man can't produce a lot of money or have a high position/career, he is useless. He told me about Kim Yu-na, a talented ice skater from South Korea who won the Winter Olympic Figure Skating 2010. South Korean people expected her to always be number 1. Unfortunately, Yu-na is a human, too who someday can fail to be the best in competition. In one of The Korea Times' article, the newspaper even called Yu-na as 'item'. What a pity!

The most important thing in your life is not whether you can get a lot of money, or good position in a company, or being what your parents or other want you to be, BUT being what God wants you to be and faithfully follow His guidance.

Not just one person thought that I was stupid for leaving my job in one of the biggest companies in Singapore. Many people thought that I was crazy to go back to Indonesia for getting married and had no certainty about my future. A lot of people regretted my decision to follow my husband to South Korea where I would find language and culture barrier, and struggle to find a suitable job, when I could just accept a good position in a company in Indonesia.

But I have chosen the right decision. Being together with my husband is the best thing ever in life. This is the place where I suppose to be. I can support him, love him, take care of him and having many good times with him. Moreover, God gives us the precious gift which is still in my womb. Nothing can be compared to our happiness.

Being a housewife is a privilege.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

To share or not to share?

When you find that you're pregnant, what will you do?

Will you keep that good news just for you and husband? Or will you share it with everyone you know, included family and friends?

For me, I chose the last.

There was a discussion I read on the internet whether to tell other people or keep it secret until the pregnancy enter the 2nd trimester (4-6 months). There are pro and cons about the two options.

The first said that it's better to keep it private because the 1st trimester is the vital period where miscarriage can happen anytime. Of course we would not expect it happens but we never know. So, be patient and wait till you have passed the important- first-three-months which means that the probability of miscarriage will drop to 0%.

The second opinion is to share it because it is a great joy and happiness for not only both of you but also for family and friends. They can support you in your not-so-good-first-trimester if you experience nausea, vomitting and other morning sickness. They can give you advice if this is your first time pregnancy. And the most important thing according to me is that you will not feel alone if you experience miscarriage. Hubby , family and friends can be your strength to get through the sadness and tears.

I thanks God that I can pass the 1st trimester without vomitting at all. Yes, I felt exhausted and easily tired or sleepy. Entering the 2nd trimester, I feel better and somehow get back to my normal life.

One of my bestfriend had miscarriage two weeks ago. I guess she chose the first option above, but still told some friends offline. Her pregnancy was one month younger than mine. I wish I can be beside you to comfort and hug you. I only can pray that Jesus hugs you there, always. Be strong, sis!
Miss you!

Sunday, February 21, 2010

We saw the baby! - Week 11

Doctor said that I had to come after Lunar New Year to check how the baby is. This time San came with me and we insisted that he must come in together with me to see the USG monitor.

Firstly doctor asked me how about the last three weeks, did I take a lot of rest and eat well...I said yes. I slept many many hours since I felt tired easily. Then she asked did I experience vomit or morning sickness....I said no. She seemed surprise to hear my answer. (On the first visit, she had asked me the same question and my answer was NO). To reassure herself, she asked the same question one more time.

She said that God helps me because I didn't experience any vomit or morning sickness which is normal for early pregnancy. God makes my physical condition so good and healthy. He knows that I live far away from hometown and the weather in Korea is totally different from Indonesia. This year winter is the worst winter in Korea, it is extremely cold compare to previous years. Thanks God!

Doctor started to put the USG scan to my tummy and we saw the cute small baby. Baby was idle at first but when San wanted to take some pictures, baby started to wave its hands and legs. All of us were so happy to see the movement, especially San, because it was the first time for him to see the baby. He successfully recorded the baby's movement!

Saturday, February 6, 2010

What a great husband!

He was so nice and helpful during this tiring week.
I got terrible headache and caught a bad flu these few days.
San was always there for me, offered helps and even replaced me to teach English at night class (something that he would not do in the past even though I begged him hihi^^).

He helped to clean the room (actually he did it himself without my help ^^) and also cooked for me. Surprised!

Thanks bun2!

Sunday, January 31, 2010

Week by week

Today is a very important day in our life. Today we know that Dita is not sick as what doctor diagnosed her two weeks ago. Instead, there is a big surprise in the tummy which is growing bigger and bigger.This could be a long post as we tried to tell you what have happened starting from the beginning.

Week 1:
Of course we never knew that this was indeed the first week of pregnancy. We just enjoyed everyday and been busy preparing Christmas Service on December 13, 2009. It was a hectic week for me since I was responsible for the event and preparing many things for the service (candle, liturgy book, songs, decoration, etc.).
The Kosin Christmas Tree Festival Pictures might be the last pictures before the first week of pregnancy.

Week 2:
Done with Christmas service at Church. Felt relief and happy. Even though many things were not properly done and not following the original plan, but it was a joyful Christmas where many people could attend our Church service. The number of guests was more than what we had expected. The Church was kind of full and crowded.

Week 3:
On Saturday (Dec 19), we went to Kosin university again to take another pictures with friends. It was a freezing night felt like -10 degree Celcius. We took tons of pictures as if we didn't want to miss every single corner at Kosin. The next day we went to Changwon, about 45mins-1 hour from Busan to attend a Christmas Service held by our Indonesian friends. I liked this trip, met many people, experienced another Christmas Service atmosphere and tasted delicious Indonesian food! Yummy.

Usually back in my hometown, we always spend Christmas Eve at Church together with family. We have a service and celebration afterward. Dec 25 is again another Christmas Service. But here in Korea, there is no Christmas Eve service and previously I heard that there was no Christmas service on Dec 25, too. So, we spent Christmas Eve together with my students watching 'Sherlock Holmes'...not a good idea though, but there was schedule conflict on that week.

Week 4:
Yeehaa! It's Christmas Day! Merry Christmas to all of you!
We had a Christmas Service at Church, even though it is a simple service but it is very meaningful for all of the congregation. We had lunch together and headed to Seomyeon (city centre) for Christmas Caroling. Some of us were singing Korean, Indonesia, Chinese Christian Songs, and the rest ofteams distribute a Christmas Wish and an Indonesian souvenir. Unforgettable experience!


At night, we were invited to come to a Christmas Service at Korean Church somewhere in Daeyon. We would sing Indonesian songs arranged by me...haha ^^...it's funny and soooooo interesting! Apparently, this service was for foreigners living in Busan because at the end of service, the drew ballots for Door Prize. The main prize was a washing machine. Woohoo! And guess...who won that first prize? hoho...San got it!


We don't need a washing machine, but we got it. The next week, San asked the shop whether we can change the washing machine into another thing that we need or we can use. Thanks God, we have some friends who willing to buy MP3s, so we can get the money instead.

This week was a hectic week. On Saturday, we made a trip to Changwon, AGAIN, for a Christmas Service, AGAIN, as we were invited by another Indonesian Church over there. The next day, we went to Daegu, which is about 2 hours from Busan. The temperature was going down and I felt so cold. Despite the cold temperature, it was a great service with Pdt. Daniel Alexander specially came to Busan to preach.

Week 5:
Happy New Year! I felt terribly tired especially after New Year's eve. We slept late, perhaps at 3am. The next day, San went to another Christmas (can't remember how many CHristmas service we had attended during December) but I had to designing something for a friend.

I still run and walked fast during this week, had tight schedule and even started join a Korean class twice a week.

This week, I noticed that I didn't get my period, but I was not surprise because there was one time it changed to 50 days. I just talked to myself to wait until the 50th. And life went on...

Week 6:
I started to feel tired and sleepy easily. If I had even only 30 minutes free time, I would choose to sleep and sleep. I used to read books in the subway but this week I was to exhausted. I lost my appetite. I didn't want to eat and just slept. Korean food became strange food to me, especially Kimchi which I loved so much previously. I often stopped in the middle of meal time and offered my-half-eaten-food to San. I missed Indonesian food so much!

Week 7:
San insisted that I had to see doctor to ask why my period was changed from normally 28 days to 50 days. Fortunately, there was a free medical check-up at PMF so we decided to check my health. The doctor took USG check-up to my tummy and found out that there was endometriosis with a small cyst. Another doctor who can speak English translated that to me. He suggested that I should meet an obstetrician and he would schedule my meeting with her the next week.

We never expected that this was a cyst and endometriosis. As I remember, none of my family had this kind of problem. But, I didn't worry too much, as I knew the size of the cyst is very small (smaller than 1x1cm) and the only medicine for this disease is 'to be pregnant'...

Doctor called that the appointment with the obstretrician was delayed one week. So we went to Ice Rink at Shinsegae. What...? Yes...Ice Skating! I got a free gift for two person, so we went there to try. I was afraid that I was going to fall. I can't ice skating but San can do it well. He said that 'Maybe you have to try to fall down once so that you won't be afraid anymore". Luckily, I didn't follow his advice. He would regret it later.


Week 8:
Everything was still the same. Tired easily, no appetite, etc.
The 50th day was during this week. My Mom called me on day and asked "Are you pregnant?". I said "No. Who told you the news?"
After talked to her, I said to myself, why don't I try to test it? I had the pregnancy test my auntie gave me before I went to Busan.
That's what happened on Monday, Jan 25. It was positive!
I can't wait anymore...I called San. He was surprised yet asked me to stay calm.
I called Mom on Tuesday, I can't hide anything from her...She urged me to see doctor as soon as possible because she worried that my pregnancy had been more than 6 weeks at that time. But I wanted to keep my promise with the doctor to see him on Sunday.

Week 9:
Finally...here is the day. The day before, we shared to our friends at night fellowship at Church that something happened with me and we're not sure what it was. So, all of them pray for my health. Thanks!
We met Dr. Shin who helped us with the translation. He told us that he was not sure if the obstetrician would really come as she had promised. He asked me to wait.

Then...you know the result already. Dita is pregnant. 8 wks pregnancy. We really thanked God for His blessing. Doctor said that the baby's heartbeat was good and everything was fine.

Thanks for all your love & support.


You made my whole being; you formed me in my mother's body.
I praise you because you made me in an amazing and wonderful way.
What you have done is wonderful. I know this very well.
You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother's body.
When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed.
All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old.
Psalm 139:13-16